This is the time of year to change. Do not be held back by grudges, anger, and hate. Write a living eulogy to three people, someone you appreciate (they might be gone soon), someone that has done you wrong (let it go), and yourself (you have to love and appreciate yourself you can expect others to love and appreciate you).
We've seen many people post what they are thankful for during a specific month, but forgiving others and yourself is a great habit to do all year! We want to share The Be WUCA! Way to express appreciation and forgiveness of others in a unique and lasting way: write a eulogy for a living person. This exercise is a way to appreciate, but also can be a way to forgive. Let another living person know just what they mean to the world in a Be WUCA! Way.
1) Ask: who do you need to forgive?
- A person you love and respect?
- A person who has done you wrong?
2) Think about what you'd put in a letter in high praise of a person. A testament to a person's life. Usually given at a person's funeral or memorial service, that person will never hear all the good things being said - why wait? Tell them now.
What about writing to a living person who has wronged you in some way that you need to forgive? Maybe you don't need to deliver it to them, but would it feel good to get those emotions out of you?
The most touching and meaningful eulogies are written from the heart - it doesn't have to be perfect. Whatever you write will be appreciated. Writing a eulogy is truly an honor for a person - your words will paint a picture through the memories, anecdotes, and stories you tell of their impact on Earth.
3) Gather information. Here are some ideas to get you started:
- a condensed life history of the person.
- details about family, friends, work/career, interests, and achievements.
- favorite memories.
- favorite poems, songs, quotes, or religious writings.
- recall your own memories.
- tell who they are, what they do, and what they enjoy about life.
Think about the person and the relationship you have with them. Where you met (if you're not family), things you do together, humorous or touching memories, and what you would miss the most might be things you decide to share.
Be sure to get memories from others!
Talk with family members, close friends, and co-workers to gather valuable items. Other information you can include:
- Person’s age/date of birth
- Family and other close relationships
- Hobbies or special interests
- Places the person lived
- Special accomplishments
Organize notes and drafts on a computer program, plain paper, or note cards - whatever method is most comfortable and familiar to you.
You decide the tone. Some prefer serious, while others may want to keep the tone light. A mix of both elements, solemnity and humor, is usually best to allow the receiver to share in the celebration of a life. Their life.
Write in your own voice - the same way you would normally talk.
Don't get bogged down by the formalities of writing. Your reader will want to feel like you are talking to them from your heart, not from a script.
Depending on the type of eulogy you've written, you can give it to the person about whom you've written and touch them in a very Be WUCA! Way. If you've written to someone who has wronged you, you know the circumstances and whether it's wise to deliver the writing. If not advisable, you can store or destroy the document and feel good you've let go of feelings that may have been gripping you tightly to now move forward.
Each day, express appreciation for the living as your highest priority. One day, the person you appreciate won't be there.
Take your chance. Do it now!!