We teach in our workshops that everyone loves change, they just don't like transition. Change is nothing more than creating new habits, taking some people longer to adapt to new ways of doing and thinking about things.
Habits are merely reactions and responses we have learned to perform automatically without having to think or decide, most by our subconscious. Fully 95 percent of our behaviors, feelings, and responses are habitual.
All of our attitudes, emotions, and beliefs tend to become habitual. In our lives, we've learned that certain attitudes and ways of feeling and thinking are appropriate to certain situations, so we tend to think, feel, and act the same way whenever we encounter what we interpret as the same sort of situation.
For example, over time, arguments between spouse, business partners, or communities, become habitual. People learn to “push buttons.” You say this to me, I say this to you, and back and forth, acting out the identical script and responding in exactly the same way as you have done many times before.
The great news is that these habits can be modified, changed, and reversed, simply by taking the trouble to make a conscious decision, and then practice and act out the new response or behavior. It requires constant watchfulness and practice until the new behavior pattern is learned, but it can be accomplished!
In "The Be WUCA! Way," we call this "driving your WUCA! CAR," for C (Circumstances) + A (Actions) = R (Results.) To change your circumstances, you have to change your actions to get the results you want. This is the only way to achieve what you want.
Seven pledges to change your habitual response:
Raise your right hand and repeat after me!
- I will be as cheerful as possible.
- I will act friendlier toward people.
- I will be less critical and more tolerant of other people, their opinions, failings, and mistakes. I will place the best possible interpretation on their actions.
- I will not judge other people. I will not let my own opinion color facts in a pessimistic or negative way.
- I will practice smiling at least three times during the day.
- I will react as calmly and as intelligently as possible.
- I will ignore completely and close my mind to all those pessimistic and negative comments that I can do nothing to change.
Simple? No. But each of these habits of acting, feeling, and thinking has an influence on your self-image. Commit to these seven pledges for 30 days, then teach them to somebody else. See if worry, guilt, hostility have been decreased and if confidence and a better outlook on life and your situation has increased.
Learn to drive your WUCA! CAR to get different results in your life. The Be WUCA! Way is a great book to begin the process to change your habits. www.bewuca.com.