Is "It" a Policy or Is "It" Tradition

Sometimes we have to look at the history of why we do things. Is it really necessary to continue some of the things that we do or do we do them just because we are comfortable doing it that way?

A mother and daughter were preparing a roast for a family dinner. The daughter cut the ends off of the roast before putting it in the roaster, just as she was taught. She asked her mother, “why do we cut the ends off of the roast before we cook it?” “I am not sure,” said the mother. “I guess it makes it taste better, but let’s go ask grandma.”

So they went to ask grandma. “Grandma?” asked the mother. “why did you teach me to cut the ends off of the roast before cooking it?”

“Because it makes the roast taste better,” responded Grandma. “Besides, that is the way my mother taught me. Let’s go ask her.”

So then the three of them went to the person who started the tradition of cutting of the ends off of the roast.

“Great Grandmother why do you cut the ends off of the roast before you cook it? Does it make the roast taste better?”

“Heavens no,” said the great grandmother. “I cut the ends off of the end of the roast because that is the only way I could get it to fit into the pan I used.”

When you are told we can't do something because it is against policy, ask to see the written policy. Many times it is tradition not a rule.  "We have always done it this way."

Do not take status quo as rule. Change needs to happen. 

We Live in a Vibrational Cloud

As you think, you become.

Our bodies are a complex of thoughts, actions, beliefs, chemicals, and electrical energy. We live in a big world with much that happens around us and through us.

It is our response, thoughts, and actions to what is happening in our environment that determines who we are and what happens to us.

Let me explain.

When something happens in our environment, we experience it through any of our five senses. The mind then affects our body through our cells, releasing a multitude of proteins in our bodies. We determine what it means and if we accept it or not in our minds.

Our cells and bodies create energy from each thought, action, or experience that happens to us. This energy sends a vibration into the environment that attracts more of the actions or experiences of the same vibration and the cycle starts all over.

Only it goes with intensity as our emotions enter.

We call this a “vibration cloud.”

 Vibration Cloud

This is why “like attracts like” and “as you think you become.”

Your vibration cloud is all around you. It is always working and where your thoughts and attitude affects your health. In fact, it affects everything about you every single day.

The great news is that you can affect it in the way that you want your world to look like and what attitude you will have. For example, if you wake up and decide it is going to be a bad day, your experiences line up to prove you right. But if you say “It’s going to be a great day!”you look for things that will make it great.

Every smell you have, everything you feel, see, hear, or taste, influences your attitude, arranging your response to arrange for you to enjoy your experience.

No matter what you do during the day, at any time you are creating energy.

  • Ideas are energy.
  • Mp3 devices are energy. You experience energy in everything you hear.
  • Inventions are energy before they become structure.
  • Food is energy.
  • Magazines are energy
  • The books on your bookshelf are energy.
  • Television shows are energy.
  • Drinks are energy.
  • Your computer content is energy.
  • What you hang on your walls is energy.
  • Thoughts are energy.
  • Feelings are energy.

Everything is energy. You cannot get away from it. It affects everything you do your life.

So to make your day the way you want it, review your thoughts and create your environment. Your internal environment reinforces your external environment.

It begins within you! The world without will not change for you unless the world within changes.

What will you become today?

Habits Form Early. Living Them Is A Choice.

What do you do that reminds you of your parents? Do you ever remember saying, “I will never do this to my kids” or “I will never be like my mom or my dad!”

If you said those things, I want you to do something right now. 

Look around you. How you have decorated? Remind you of someone?

How about disciplining your kids? Remind you of someone?

Now go through the list and compare:

  • Work/Career
  • Where you live
  • Recreation
  • What you eat.
  • What time you eat
  • Hobbies
  • Social graces (or lack of)
  • Education
  • Cultural discrimination
  • Spirituality
  • Attitude about money
  • Spending habits
  • Appearance
  • Books/music/literature
  • Relationships

The habits of your parents or the people that raised you, make an impact on you whether you like it or not. It is neither good or bad unless you want it to be.

Some traditions are good. They provide an anchor and stability. However, traditions just for the sake of "we have always done it, but it has no meaning" are not good.

What you have to do is go through each of the habits and see where they are getting you. Is the habit getting you closer to your goals or is it creating a barrier between where you are and where you want to be?

You either do something and like it or you make up your mind to make a conscious decision to change what you are doing.

It is up to you. It is not your parent's fault, it is not your grandparent's fault. It is not the politician’s, or your spouse’s fault. Nor is your teacher to blame.

You are who you are because you chose to respond in certain ways.

Life happens because of our responses to events. We create our world.

Do you like yours? Take responsibility for who you are, where you are, and why you live the way you live.

Live what you like and change what you don’t. It is up to you.

The Story of the 18th Camel

The story is told of a Middle Eastern traveler making his way on a long journey across the desert. As he plodded on his camel steadily through the dry heat, he came upon an oasis. Approaching the desert spring, the traveler was surprised to find three brothers weeping profusely.

Through conversation with the mourning brothers, the traveler discovered their father had recently passed away. The source of the tears was the brother’s inability to satisfy their fathers’ last wish.

The father had given strict instructions that the inheritance of his estate be divided in such a way that the oldest received one half, the second received one third, and the youngest received one ninth of the father’s estate.

The brothers had successfully divided the rest of their father’s property, but were unable to do so with the camels. The father had left them 17 camels, and, try as they may, the brothers could not distribute the camels according to father’s wishes.

The traveler considered the dilemma and then offered the brothers a solution. He insisted they receive his camel as a gift. After much conversation and many attempts at refusal, the brothers relented to the travelers’ demands and received the kindness of his gift.

With 18 camels, the brothers were able to properly divide the inheritance and satisfy their father’s wishes. The older brother received one half of the herd and took his 9 camels. The second brother received one third of the herd and took his 6 camels. The youngest brother received one ninth of the herd and took his 2 camels.

Surprisingly, 9 camels plus 6 camels plus 2 camels equals 17 camels. With the inheritance properly distributed, the traveler was able to take his camel and continue on his journey.

What solution do you have to offer to the desperate situations around you? Many times the answer is not either/or but the answer lies in the third option, an option that you never would have found if you did not try and understand another’s point of view. The solution might be right in front of you but you are to close to see it.

Are you riding on the 18th camel?

 

What you believe directs your life. What song do you sing?

Do you remember what it was like when you were a kid; when you believed that you could be anything you wanted when you grew up? When you believed you could do anything? The possibilities were endless! What was your dream?

 You could be a policeman or woman. A doctor. An astronaut. A master gardener!

 You believed that anything was possible.

 And it was.

 You didn't have any doubts or judgments.

You didn't see all the reasons "why not." You just saw the "What if?"

 Do you still believe that you can be anything you want and have everything you daydream about?

 Why not?  What happened?

 Why don't we still believe money grows on trees?

Why don't we still believe that we can have it all?

Why don't we still believe that we are worthy enough?

Why do we see all the reasons why it won't work, or why we can't do it, or why it's not possible?

 It's not your fault that you believe this way.

As we've lived life, other people told us that a certain thing isn't possible. We've been told that money doesn't grow on trees, you have to work hard, life is a struggle, you aren't good enough, or smart enough, or attractive enough. Our beliefs changed.

At first, we didn't believe them. We were still kids at heart and thought we could have it all. But then we tried and failed.

And the more we tried (or saw others try) and fail, we started adopting those beliefs as "truths" or "facts." Through the years, they became our beliefs. We started saying and believing:

Money doesn't grow on trees.

I'm not good enough.

I'm not smart enough.

Nothing ever works out for me.

Other people are just lucky.

Life is hard.

The list goes on.

Well, we're here to tell you that's not the truth! Just because someone else's voice sings that song doesn't make it true for you. That's not who you are! You are so much more valuable and have so much more to offer! These messages, these songs, are other peoples' old, worn out, self-sabotaging beliefs. If these are the tunes singing in your head, are you still pursuing your dream?

Every action you take and decision you make is a result of your beliefs. You CAN change your beliefs to change your life, but you must be intentional and determined every day - sometimes every SECOND of every day - to direct your life where you want to go.

Your beliefs literally control your life. What song are you singing? With whom are you hanging out? What song do they sing? Do the people in your life cheer you on? Maybe you could use and appreciate some new cheerleaders who will encourage you and help you see who you truly are and the possibilities that are waiting for you!

With a happy outlook, a positive attitude, an encouraging support system, and "I can do it" beliefs in place, you will change your life and your future through your own actions. You can make decisions that will allow you to live the life you want - a life of freedom and joy! Bring back your childhood optimism, sing your own song, and go after your dream!