Stop the Drain - Stop Teaching Students to Work for Others

Save our schools and communities. Grow our economy. What are we to do?

The best way to accelerate our job creation rate is to embrace and support policies in all levels of the political spectrum that encourage entrepreneurs. We believe rural schools and communities can be saved and economies can grow by teaching young people they don’t have to work for a big company or for other people. Teach students that owning their own business is a great win-win strategy to grow the local economy! 

This isn't just a school’s issue. For rural towns and cities, it's an issue of community survival.

Our country is really run and dominated by small- and medium-sized businesses. Ninety-eight percent of your community’s new jobs are created by businesses you see on your Main Street, home- based businesses that are a part of your town’s hidden economy, and all your existing businesses you count on to meet your needs. Only 2% of all new jobs are created by companies recruited to your community.

For more than 30 years, I have worked with communities on many different levels, much of that time in very rural areas. I've watched communities spend many thousands of dollars to “steal” companies from other towns, creating a neutral net gain of jobs in the economy. Many of those companies, after they have used up their tax advantages from relocating, will look elsewhere to gain more tax advantages and their loyalty to that community ends as soon as they receive a better deal.

Our focus is teaching our young people from a very early age that an alternative of working for someone else is creating your own business and products.

The bottom line is that if we really want to make a difference in our economy and grow our towns, we should focus on entrepreneurship in our schools. 

Encourage people to dream and help talented individuals start companies that create business models that grow small-, medium-, big-sized, sustainable organizations. We need to encourage students to create local jobs by owning local businesses. And support them to grow regionally and globally.

We need entrepreneurship schools that give students alternative curriculum that teaches the components of business planning and use their youthful creativity to design the future.

Create curriculum that engages youth to develop as local leaders, energizes them through entrepreneurship and business growth, and teaches the importance of giving back through local charitable giving.

 We have a culture of taking inventions to market,. That takes an entrepreneur.

It appears to me that we have been losing that part of our creative business cycle. Many community businesses are third-generation owners, passed down in families, leading to many of our communities and leaders losing their entrepreneurial culture, innovation, and drive.

Entrepreneurs are those who usually start businesses, but another benefit of teaching entrepreneurship in school is teaching the concept of “intrapreneurship.” Intrapreneurs work inside companies and are the brains and energy behind creating customers.

An entrepreneur/intrapreneur will create business models that will identify more customers and create innovative ways to address commercial and social concerns.

Many of our towns are losing population. Schools are losing enrollment, and budgets are shrinking. We can turn around this trend by giving our youth an alternative to working for others and an alternative of having to move away to get a good job. That alternative is owning their own business and locating in the town where they are educated. Imagine a school in your town that incubates business ideas and business models that will spin out to locate on Main Street or can be run from a home using the community’s local technology, contributing to and growing your local tax base! You need to take responsibility in your community to create the environment for jobs to be created. Government can assist but cannot do it alone.

Gallup identified the reason students drop out of school and disengage in education, they have lost all hope in graduating. They cannot see how the education they are getting will lead them to where they want to go. Students will engage in their education when they see how it will provide them with a good job and a chance for a good life. For many, it is giving them hope that their good job will be created by their own creativity and the realization that they can own their own business.

Innovation itself doesn't create sales. The entrepreneur is the connector, the person who envisions a valuable product or concept and its customer, and then creates a business model and strategy that creates sales and profit.

Entrepreneurship is a long-term commitment that needs the support of the local community, local school district, coupled with state policy support. Clifton states, “If you were to ask me, from all of Gallup’s data and research on entrepreneurship, what will most likely tell you if you are winning or losing your city, my answer would be, ‘5th-12th-graders’ image of and relationship to free enterprise and entrepreneurship.’ If your city doesn't have growing economic energy in your 5th-12th-graders, you will experience neither job creation, nor city GDP growth.”

Entrepreneurship schools in our education system is a must and needs to be a supported strategy by leadership on all policy levels for our healthy, growing, successful future.

Get Your Head in the Game

One of the biggest challenges in meeting any goal, whether it be related to productivity, waking early, changing a habit, exercising, or just becoming happier, is finding the motivation to stick with it.

 If you can stick with a goal for long enough, you’ll almost always get there eventually. It just takes patience and motivation. Motivation is the key, but it’s not always easy, day in and day out, to find that motivation.

One way to get you there quicker, is with another person, a coach.

A goal-setting coaching process that will help you to understand the “why” and the “how” goals are achieved. If you have ever wanted to achieve that "magic" weight; if you have ever wanted to have the endurance; if you have ever wanted to earn a grade; if you have ever wanted to achieve any goal, then even before you even start your program, you will want to give yourself a “head” start to achieving your goals!

Individuals in all circumstances can and will reach any goal that they want to achieve - it all starts in your mind.  So, participate and “Get your Head in the Game” and focus to achieve your goals. Motivation is the key!

Coaching sessions include:

  • “It all starts with passion, purpose, vision, and action.”

  • “Understanding how your mind directs you to achieve your goals.”

  • “Identifying your passion to achieve your goal

  • "Remove any mind blocks that keep you from achieving your goals."

  • “Start with the end in mind and create a realistic goal for yourself.”

  • "Overcoming negative mind-chatter."

  • "Replacing the negative with the positive."

It does not matter where you are in life - high school, college, young, old, amateurs or professional; we all need help at times. We all get in our heads and can't see the victories that lie before us.

Take action and move aside the stumbling block in your head! Become the person that you want to become and "Get Your Head in the Game" to win!

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Civility?

Name calling! Finger-pointing! Backbiting!

Blaming others seems to be the norm these days. Should it be?

Tear down this wall!

Years ago, East and West Germany became one nation. A wall was torn down. It is time our walls between differing ideologies, values and opinions come down.

Effective leaders cultivate a safe and supportive climate in which relationships are based on inclusivity, trust, and mutual respect. Only in a supportive environment can people feel safe to express differences of opinions and work toward “win-win” solutions.

This country and so many communities, groups, and political organizations need to listen to each other. Not just not talk and take positions, but to listen to why people hold a particular view. The environment we create teaches generations of individuals how to think about, talk about, talk to, and treat one another.

Listening is an action!

Listening is a skill that requires intentional development. Just as you needed to learn how to walk correctly, relationships require the skill to actively listen because much of the time when an issue arises, the problem on the surface usually has a problem behind it where the true issue lies.

We each view life and the issues we encounter through our own filters. Unique opinions and values form through our environment: the people we grew up with. Live and work around. Our experiences, thoughts, and perceptions about them. The values we have formed throughout our lives. We create environments everywhere. Family. Friends. Work. Worship. The grocery store. The car. Play.

Inherent in every relationship, conflict is a difference in perspectives. The diversity of perspectives within relationships helps generate ideas and facilitate change. If it is managed wisely, conflict is an opportunity. Listen for values to identify the issue.

Don't just talk about an issue, talk through it

The search for common ground on tough issues is more productive using a technique called "deliberative dialogue," seeking "why" people hold their position. Dialogue talks through an issue, not just takes a stand about - for or against - an issue. When you seek to understand the "why" others act the way they do, you discover a person's values. From there, you can work together to identify a positive outcome in a safe space. People can come together, talk through perspectives on issues, and find common ground that will create a better environment.

Consider these questions when identifying the "problem behind the problem." Be sure to intentionally involve all affected parties in the dialogue.

Naming the issue: What do you think is the problem? What bothers you?

Framing the issue: What can/should we do about the problem?

Deliberating to understand values: If we do what you suggest, what do you think would happen?

What would be fair? Effective?

Why would we be better off? How would we be better off?

What is the downside?

If there is a downside, would we change our minds? What different course could we pursue?

Acting together to find common ground: What would you and the affected parties be willing to do about the problem? What are you willing to give up to do what you want to do?

Are you seeking civility? Check your environment. See if people listen to and respect one another. If you need a technique, try deliberative dialogue.

"The Be WUCA! Way" teaches civility.

Learn - Do - Teach.

Responsible Citizenship and Change

WUCA!-led communities are more open-minded, approachable, tend to have more newcomers, and they allow new people to make new ideas happen. Studies show U.S. state populations seeing growth have a higher percentage of newcomers than native-borns. A rural community that I once worked with told about a person who had moved to that community within the last two years. With three children enrolled in the district, she was at a school board meeting, and stood up to share her opinions on the issue at hand.

When she sat down, the lady next to her turned and told her that she had no right to talk at this meeting. The shocked woman asked why not. The woman replied that “she hadn’t lived here long enough.” Though she had children in the school, she'd only lived in the community a brief amount of time which, apparently, equaled her value and ability to contribute. In our town, we know people who moved to our community 30 years ago who still don’t feel they belong because their grandparents aren’t buried in the local cemetery.

As a leader, you need to look at your policies. Are they welcoming? As communities, counties, and states, do you allow newcomers to move in and do you embrace them? Yes, leaders love it when new companies come to town. There’s a ribbon-cutting for a new business,  a rousing welcome to all the new people to town, then, in a month, the excitement dies down and the new people that the community was excited about become  “those” new people with all those “strange” new ideas. Or sometimes you hear comments when they become successful, they must have done something “wrong” and “underhanded” to gain that accomplishment. Communities and people in general, have a habit of trying to pull successful people down to their level because there is a tendency to not like people who are doing better than they are because they have such low self-esteem.

Really, we often only like change if the change doesn’t affect us.

The result is that the future remains the same because people often refuse to take their role as responsible citizens to make change that is necessary. It’s hard work. It is messy. It requires talking to people. It requires acknowledging the world is not as black and white as we thought. Change requires slogging through the “gray” of an issue to see it through the eyes of another’s experience. Change requires that we may have to give up our way and do it someone else’s.

Remember that for every result that you want, there is a certain way of thinking, believing, and acting. You can change without improving, but you cannot improve without changing.

For your community, school, workplace, and organization to become "WUCA!-ized" contact kim@ghorizons.com

Frank and Kimberlee Spillers are the co-authors of "The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along." Available at www.bewuca.com

 

Reduce Costs Increase Profits

Here are some startling figures:

  • $300 Billion is spent every year on healthcare costs by American businesses due to employee stress-related illnesses.
  • According to Business News, a guide for start-up and small business, nearly half of all workers suffer from moderate to severe stress while on the job.
  • Sixty-six percent of employees report that they have difficulty focusing on tasks at work because of stress.

Stress in businesses is recognized by increased absenteeism, employees on-site but working below capacity, sick-time off, depression, concentration problems, human error, turnover problems, general dissent, as well as decreased employee satisfaction, resiliency, efficiency, and productivity.

Stress has been called the “health epidemic of the 21st century” by the World Health Organization.

In just one area, employee health, it’s been shown repeatedly that high-stress employees have significantly higher rates of:

  • Heart and cardiovascular problems
  • Anxiety, depression and demoralization
  • Alcohol and prescription/over-the-counter drug abuse
  • Susceptibility to a wide range of infectious diseases
  • Back pain (up to threes times higher)
  • Repetitive strain injuries (up to 2.5 times higher)

So where is the stress coming from? A number of key workplace factors have been implicated in employee stress that employers can influence (notice that money is not on the list!):

  • Lack of influence over day-to-day work
  • Overload and time pressures
  • Lack of training and/or preparation
  • Too little or too much responsibility
  • Ambiguity in job responsibility
  • Discrimination & harassment
  • Poor communication
  • Poor management
  • Neglect of legal and safety obligations

To address these issues at work or other places, environment matters. The Be WUCA! Way identifies four components where people Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate themselves and others. Here's what you can do where you are to create a profitable environment:

  1. Create a positive atmosphere – one where words matter and workers learn to take responsibility for their own results.
  2. Learn how to develop an active listening environment where you have value-based discussions.
  3. Target employee’s passions with the job assignment. Have employees work toward their vision of their future and develop goals to get there.
  4. Give huge amounts of appreciation to all where workers are not taken for granted and their work is meaningful.

Want to decrease your healthcare costs, raise productivity, reduce stress, and increase your bottom line? It might seem like this is just fluff stuff, but when you create a healthy environment with The Be WUCA! Way, you will transform your workplace, transform your employees and transform your bottom line.

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Create Wealth The Be WUCA! Way

The best way to lead a great team is to create an environment that encourages individuals to communicate better, deal with others better, and help people like and trust each other better. Effective leaders realize that the thin line between fitting in and being welcomed is so close to feeling excluded and left out.

Effective leaders know that people want to belong somewhere. In a group. At work. At the worship center. In families. With friends! If you know you can use some help in this leadership area in your relationships, you're in good company.

When effective leaders lead The Be WUCA! Way, wealth is created in many different forms.

What comes to mind when you think of creating wealth? A room full of gold? Vacations? A new car? Bills paid off so you feel wealthy? The newest phone or device? These certainly can be pictures of building or having wealth.

Much larger than the economic sense, creating wealth is the act of building a person’s knowledge, experience, and abilities to build sustainability in community. When you create wealth with The Be WUCA! Way foundation of leadership, you create opportunities for all people to belong, participate in, and contribute.

Frank Spillers

"Best training we have had in more than 13 years!"

When you create wealth The Be WUCA! Way, you change the way you look at things. You create wealth and healthy environments when you build people up, focus on making their lives better, and help others become what they dream about. You become a more effective leader when you encourage people The Be WUCA! Way, when you Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate yourself and others. You will enjoy a sense of belonging!

Wealth creation begins with positive, forward-thinking, people-centered leadership making things happen! An effective leader will guide in identifying people’s passion and purpose because this is what really motivates us to perform, get things done, and do our very best work!

An effective leader will communicate a big-picture vision, assist to establish doable goals, and create an environment to achieve each and every one using and building people's talents along the way.

An effective leader allows - encourages - an individual to grow. When your words and actions build people, you will automatically strengthen businesses, create successful schools, excite communities, families, and organizations.

With effective leadership The Be WUCA! Way comes business and community growth because life will really be humming along and people will respond! Leaders set goals, always looking for and creating new pathways for people to engage. They generate new ways of seeing and acting on both persistent and emerging challenges that offer the possibility for change and authentic hope.

How do you rate your wealth creation? Do people feel they "belong" in your presence? Are you a good leader? Want to be a great leader?

Wherever you are in the world, your business, workplace, school, community, family, and organization will prosper when you put The Be WUCA! Way principles to work.

Learn to use them. Live them. You'll see a dramatic difference of wealth creation in your life! Step into being and creating leadership The Be WUCA! Way.

Live and Work Your Passion

By Frank Spillers

When you started your career, you could feel the passion! Ready to take on the world and you knew that you were in the right place at the right time. Changing the status quo was your only agenda. Shaking it up and making the world a better place was a huge goal. Real passion - I’m equating it to a vigorous deep desire you feel within you that isn't easy to explain or define. This kind of passion propels you in a direction that seems motivated by a force beyond your control. It’s the inner excitement of being on the right path, doing what feels good to you, and what you know you were meant to do. It’s my contention that the mere presence of passion within you is all you need to fulfill your dreams.

Learn this innovative soft-skill technique working through our just-released popular book, The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along.

 

When you’re enthusiastic, nothing seems difficult. When you have passion, there are no risks: family dramas become meaningless, money isn't an issue, you know that you have the strength and the smarts, and the rules laid down by others have no bearing on you whatsoever. That’s because you’re answering your calling—and the you who is doing the answering is the highest part of you, or the God within.

Visualize yourself working passionately at what you love. What would you be doing? What would you be feeling? Would you be doing it for free? Passion includes sharp focus, clear vision of your future, total control and mastery over your work, a healthy body and an exuberant attitude!

Are you doing those things? Are you living those feelings?

If you are not, you are not living your passion.

Many people would tell me that it is not feasible to live your passion. I can’t make money doing what I love. I don’t have the time to do what I am passionate about. I am too busy trying to make ends meet to really do what I am passionate about.

Does that sound like you?

I would say that you are just making excuses not to do what you love. Why?

Passion is God’s way of pushing you in the direction that He has prepared for you.

There is always a way to do something. Look around and list all the people doing what you would love to do. You tell yourself, “I wish I could do what they do!”

How do you think they do it? What do they do differently than you are doing?

Living your passion on a daily basis is what you were made to do.

Listen to your self-talk, your mind-chatter. Everything that you tell yourself, someone taught you to think.

Telling you that you can’t do what you want to do. You have to do "this" to make a living. You can’t really make a living on what you love to do - no one can. It is unrealistic to think that you can be happy working. No one is really happy at their job. It is just a way to make a living.

Sound familiar?

It doesn't have to be that way. There are people living their passion. I am one of them.

My passion is to create innovative ways that build people to be what they want to become - help them find their passion.

Life is too short to try and just get by. We listen to other people way too often. Other people do not have our best interest at heart. They usually talk from their experiences. They mean well sometimes, but they want to remain in their comfort zone and they want everyone else to stay there also.

Step out, find what you are passionate about, pray that a way will present itself, and then go for it. Find an accountability coach to help you and regain your life.

You will be a much better person for it and those who love you will appreciate the new you!

Passion does not come overnight. Taking these proactive steps will see a gradual increase in your enthusiasm. You will begin working with a newly-fired zeal which becomes contagious, motivating others as well. You will have consciously taken charge of your life and the fruits of prosperity will be in sight once again.

Find your passion and change your world!

 

 

Use a Different Set of Eyes

The new book, The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along, uses grounded, research-based, take-charge "I can affect my future" techniques in an easy-to-understand format that will work. Using the exercises and ideas from its pages, you will change the way you look at things and, because you do, the things you look at will change. When you use a different set of eyes and create environments that create growth and productivity, you will live a Be WUCA! life.

A young boy, about seven, was racing his bike along a country road near his home.

As he approached an overpass, he braked hard, and came to a stop. There sat a huge truck with its trailer jammed tightly underneath the bridge.

Rescue vehicles, with lights flashing, blocked the only remaining open lane. A very large tow truck sat with engine idled, the driver puzzled at his repeated, failed attempts to dislodge the trailer.

Firefighters, policemen, truck driver, and several adult passersby gathered around the truck, all trying desperately to figure out how to free it from the bridge.

The young boy walked his bike up to the crowd. He caught the attention of a policeman. “What’s the matter, Officer?” he asked.

“The truck driver jammed his rig up under that bridge,” the patrol officer explained. “It’s stuck pretty tight. Tried several ways, but can’t seem to get it out.”

The young boy looked at the truck… then at the officer… and said matter-of-factly, “Why don’t they just let the air out of the tires?”

The officer was dumbfounded. He just shook his head, smiled at the boy, and said,

“Thanks kid!”

Have you ever looked for a way to solve a problem - maybe for days on end - turning it over and over to look at it different ways?

The successful way to solve any problem is to stop looking for the answer. When you relax and allow the problem to be solved, you find the solution that you never ever thought you would find and in a way that is all-of-a-sudden-obvious.

It's that way with your life. When you stop searching for the exact way that you think it should go and live your passion, a way will open to you. Live for today and tomorrow will open new doors that you did not see before.

Drive your CAR The WUCA! Way

Have you ever walked to your car and started it, expecting it to take you to your destination all by itself? Of course not. You need to drive it. You need to know beforehand where you are going.

What does this mean for your life? Your business? Your family? Your workplace?

Ladies and Gentlemen! Start Your Engines!

Let me introduce you to the new and improved model of "The WUCA! Car."

 WUCA CAR

WUCA CAR

Stylish and sleek with integrity built in. Fully responsive to your actions. With bumper to bumper elegance that will passionately get you to your destination successfully with purpose.

When you drive your Be WUCA! CAR, the first thing you do is to think about the Result you want. Your destination. Where you want to end up. This step is nearly always within your power to determine. Many things you can think about ahead of time, so you have an automatic response - like your attitude getting out of bed in the morning. What kind of day do you want? Think ahead on this.

Identify your Circumstance. In whatever circumstance you are experiencing in life, what is happening to you? What are you thinking about related to a circumstance? Do you want to change anything about it? This has less certainty to it, as circumstances can change and are often beyond our control. But you often can still think ahead what may come your way.

What is completely within your control, however, is how you Act. Depending on what you've identified as your end result, you act on your circumstance to get the result you desire. You drive your CAR.

C = Circumstance

A= Action

R = Result

Just as if taking a trip, you map out the route that will get you where you want to end up in the amount of time you are planning.

Once you map out your route, you make sure that you have your car serviced. Do you have gas and oil? Are the fluid levels where they need to be? How is the tire pressure? All of these things should be checked before you start on your way.

In your life, is your mind serviced with the passion and training you need? Are the results you want within your purpose? If they are, then you are ready to drive your Be WUCA! CAR.

Just mapping out your trip and visualizing where you want to go does not get you there. You have to put your CAR into drive, step on the gas, and steer the CAR down the right road.

Will you run into road closures or road under construction sometimes?

Yes!

But when you do, there is always a way around it called a detour. (When one door closes, another one opens.)

Will your car need additional service; put gas in it?

Yes!

You will always need to stop for gas - additional training and get your rest.

Align your CAR and balance your tires - spend time with family, play, and develop friends.

And make time for tune-ups, like read books and articles, to make you a better person. Take additional training to help you reach your destination. Work with a Life Coach. Create a Mastermind group that will keep you on the road to success.

When you keep your foot on the gas and your Be WUCA! CAR is moving forward, you will reach your desired destination. You just have to:

Identify your Circumstances.

Act to map out your routes.

Choose where you will drive to get the Result you want to achieve success.

It is all up to you. You get to choose where you want to end up and what attitude you want while you are driving in your new WUCA! CAR.

BEEP!! BEEP!!!

Want to learn more? Schedule The Be WUCA! Way environmental specialist to show you how to improve your environment. You will learn The ART of getting along. kim@ghorizons.com  www.bewuca.com   http://goo.gl/UjF8L 

Be WUCA! for Schools - Coaching in the Classroom

Our experiences hiring high school and young adult workers chime in with the frustration of other business owners and heads of corporations: the quality of worker coming out of the high schools is not up to standard. Workers need to show up on time and be ready to work. They need to be able to get along and work well with others. There is often an air of entitlement with younger employees. They think that their mere presence is a gift to the business without hard work. So we took the requests for a stronger worker to the classroom to see if WUCA! would make a difference. Coaching in the Classroom (CIC) was created and began as a pilot project in 2009, focusing on 7th – 12th-graders in a rural Iowa school district and a metro alternative school, capitalizing on our more than 28 years’ expertise in rural business and economic development. CIC identifies student's passions, and uses positive self-talk and goal-setting utilized by championship athletes to develop championship students in the classroom.

CIC morphed after its first year in the rural district into a process that addresses students’ behaviors that put them “at-risk” of not graduating on time with their class, as defined by the Iowa Department of Education.

The Four Criteria

  1. Not being proficient in numeracy and literacy on Iowa Assessments;
  2. Failing at least one class;
  3. Not participating in any school activity; and
  4. Poor attendance and/or habitual tardiness.

If a student has a “check” in two of the four categories, they are considered “at-risk.” This designation doesn’t mean the child has substance abuse problems, any mental deficiencies, or other issues that could label them “at-risk.” It simply means that these behaviors are red flags – indicators that a student is developing habits that aren’t good for their academic and personal success in life.

Recognizing that these students will likely remain in their communities as employees and business owners after graduation, CIC connects these “at-risk” criteria to the behaviors employers require in employees that impact a workforce: show up on time. Be a lifelong learner and remember your lessons. Participate with others. Do “A”-quality work and turn it in on time.

The reality of our classrooms today is that our students are being taught core fundamentals, but our educational system, government mandates, and lack of solid parenting don’t allow time or staff to help them bridge the gap between school learning and applicability to the workforce once they leave school.

Coaching in the Classroom believes that all students will succeed when their passions, purpose, and goals align with their personal and occupational visions. CIC seeks to be the bridge that keeps all students in school through graduation and encourages self-motivation and drive for success in today’s global workforce.

CIC Goals

  • Improve scores of standardized assessments and other examinations.
  • Instill entrepreneurial spirit and skills to help students see the possibility of being local business owners and leaders.
  • Strengthen the local workforce by reinforcing the relevance of classroom instruction material to their futures.
  • Improve self-esteem of students when they achieve personal success raising scores and feel more hopeful about their future options.
  • Experience positive movement from students on youth surveys that measure students’ sense of security, belonging, and other less tangible but extremely important indicators for success.
  • Improve behavior of students in the community.
  • Improve relationships between students, staff, and faculty in school.
  • Improve relationships between the school, students, and the community.

Due to many factors, rural communities are being forced to look for new ways to sustain their towns and school districts. In this ever-evolving environment, the area workforce is changing from a blend of white- and blue-collar workers to a more dominant blue collar workforce, often resulting in more college-educated children choosing to look in metropolitan areas for work. The students who remain in their home area are more likely students for whom school was a more challenging and less satisfying experience.

These are the fine, bright people who, sooner or later, will likely become mayors and run the communities, city councils, school boards, churches, and civic organizations, owning businesses within the community.

In addition to in-class presentations, discussions, and field trips, CIC can specifically link students with businesses of interest to their identified passions. Communities, especially those in rural areas, need to aggressively integrate these students to pursue business succession and workforce improvement strategies in the area to increase population and school enrollment.

CIC includes real-life stories about roles and expectations as employees compared to how their employers view them. For example, students learn that tattoos, piercings, and texting on the job they feel are personal expressions and rights can affect their hirability and longevity at a business.

We set in place individual academic, extracurricular, and work-related steps to identify how to make life vision become reality. Sometimes this includes self-reflection and that is really, really tough for this population of students. Heck, most people don’t reflect because we often don’t like what we see, but it’s necessary for growth. It’s a valuable tool. So we include exercises that require them to glimpse into themselves and what they want. We encourage that they deserve what they dream. And that often requires changing their behaviors.

Involvement of the local businesses to strengthen the workforce can take place through relevant speakers to the classes, identifying gaps in businesses needed by the community, how students can look to fill the gaps, and understand how their high school learning will impact their future goals. It also takes the community to want to reach out to the students to welcome, engage, and recognize the talents they have to offer. Plus, community members need enthusiasm and patience to teach students the skills they need to learn.

In addition to all the activities and exercises included in CIC, we have encouraged students by

  • Telling them the criteria by which they have been measured since kindergarten. The mere knowledge of this “list” has been a revelation.
  • Telling them how to get off “the list” and that the ability to do so is completely within their power.
  • Helping them understand that their school attendance, classroom performance, attitude, and how they apply themselves at school matters to their ability to graduate and to future employment.
  • Ending every single class, and calling often through the halls, the single most important message from Coaching in the Classroom: make good choices. It hasn’t made us popular, but we’re known for it!

Results

  • Within months of CIC’s inception, students sent to the principal’s office for misbehavior was down more than 50 percent.
  • Students recognize that classroom work in core areas has direct impact on their future either in further education, enlisting in the military, or by remaining in or near their hometown and joining the workforce.
  • Student population considered “at-risk” has decreased from 41 to 12.3 percent.
  • The 2009 Freshman class set a goal for 100% of them to graduate on time and together. In 2013, they achieved the goal.

By identifying passions and aspirations with all students early in their school careers and helping them determine the steps to make their goals reality, students are more focused, better-behaved, and satisfied in high school, and better prepared whether they pursue a military career, go to college, or join the workforce upon graduation.

Exercise in Passing a Positive Attitude

Our attitudes are what draw people to us because people want to be around other people with whom they feel great. When you have a positive attitude and look for good in all people and situations, good and happiness likely follow. Being a positive person means you are open and you see the good in everything. You naturally attract others to you because you are hopeful, optimistic, and fun and people want to have the great time in life you do! Attitude is actually a creative cycle that begins with your choice of thoughts. You do choose your thoughts and that choice is where your attitude originates. As you internalize ideas and become emotionally involved with your thoughts, you move your entire being - mind and body - into a new "vibration." Your conscious awareness of this vibration is referred to as “feeling.” Your feelings are then expressed in actions or behaviors that produce the various results in your life.

Another benefit of having a positive attitude is that positive things happen to you. When you decide you are going to be glad, glad you are. It’s a choice. You choose to be glad. When you choose glad, things happen to you that will make you feel glad.

Attitude and results are inseparable. Positive results are always the effect of a positive attitude. One is the cause, the other, the result, discussed since at least the time of Aristotle as causality, or The Law of Cause and Effect. Simply stated related to Being WUCA!, if you think in negative terms, you will get negative results; if you think in positive terms you will achieve positive, successful results. Our thought leads action and delivers our result.

Be WUCA! Communities Create Civility for Young People!

At a time when many people feel overwhelmed by the problems and challenges facing children and adolescents, communities across the country need to discover new energy in working together, building civility toward a positive vision for young people. Instead of focusing only on problems of young people, communities need to build and support a foundation of development all young people need.

Uniting a community to nurture the positive development of youth and build civility is much like playing in a jazz ensemble. Each musician (community member) must know the tune and listen to the other ensemble members; all players must improvise together–sometimes taking the lead and sometimes blending into the background. To create a community-wide commitment to youth, all the “players” need to be an ensemble working toward a common vision of what is needed to promote the healthy development of young people.

Healthy Be WUCA! communities that build civility and family friendly supports need to act:

  • All residents take personal responsibility for the efforts to build civility in relationships.
  • The community thinks and acts intergenerational.
  • All children and teenagers frequently have opportunity to by in service to others.
  • Families are supported, educated, and equipped.
  • All children and teenagers receive support in both informal settings and in places where youth gather.
  • Neighborhoods and schools are places of caring, support, and safety.
  • Schools mobilize to promote caring, clear boundaries and sustained relationships with adults.
  • Businesses establish family-friendly policies for all employees.
  • Virtually all 10-to-18 year-olds are involved in one or more clubs, teams, or other youth-serving organizations that promote community building as a central part of their mission.
  • The media (print, radio, television) repeatedly communicate the community’s vision, support local mobilization efforts, and provide forums for sharing innovative actions taken by individuals and organizations.
  • Youth have opportunities to serve, lead, and make decisions in community government and service organizations.
  • Religious institutions mobilize their resources to build civility both within their own programs and in the community.
  • The community-wide commitment to building civility is long-term and sustained by business and industry and the public sector.

Communities utilizing Be WUCA! strategies will stem their population decline and attract new families. If you had a choice to live in a community that did not care about its youth or live in a community that engaged youth, into which community would you want to move your family? Think about it: all communities think they have great schools but I believe all parts of the community are needed to assist youth in education and to recognize as this is the place they wish to live or return with their families because of the importance that is placed on youth.

When It Looks Like I Have Failed

You are not a failure when you do not succed with your plans. It is God telling you "Not yet, you are still learning what I have planned for you."

If you have ever been judged because of a risk that you have took that did not work out, say this prayer and listen.

Lord, are you trying to tell me something?

For…

  • Failure does not mean I’m a failure; It does mean I have not yet succeeded.
  • Failure does not mean I have accomplished nothing; it does mean I have learned something.
  • Failure does not mean I have been a fool; it does mean I had enough faith to experiment.
  • Failure does not mean I’ve been disgraced; it does mean I dared to try,
  • Failure does not mean I don’t have it; it does mean I have to do something in a different way.
  • Failure does not mean I am inferior; it does mean I am not perfect.
  • Failure does not mean I’ve wasted my life; it does mean I have an excuse to start over again.
  • Failure does not mean I should give up; it does mean I must try harder.
  • Failure does not mean I’ll never make it; it does mean I need more patience.
  • Failure does not mean you have abandoned me; it does mean you must have a better idea.

Amen

Robert Schuller

The Choices You Make Determine Your Character

You build relationships and show God's love with your actions through. Change requires that we may have to give up our way for something better.

The Shaya Story

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection.

Yet my son, Shaya, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do.

Where is the natural order of things in my son?'

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shaya, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'

Then he told the following story:

Shaya and I had walked past a park where some boys Shaya knew were playing baseball. Shaya asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shaya on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shaya could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'

Shaya struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shaya's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shaya put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shaya's team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shaya was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shaya bat and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shaya was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shaya didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shaya stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shaya's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shaya could at least make contact.

The first pitch came and Shaya swung clumsily and missed.

One of Shaya’s teammate came up and together they held the bat facing the pitcher.

The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shaya.

As the pitch came in, Shaya and his teammate swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman.

Shaya would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.

Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shaya, run to first! Run to first!'

Never in his life had Shaya ever run that far, but he made it to first base.

He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, 'Run to second Shaya, run to second!'

Catching his breath, Shaya awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.

By the time Shaya rounded towards second base, the right fielder, the smallest guy on their team who now had his chance to be the hero for his team, could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag. But he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the second-baseman's head.

Shaya made it to second. With the ball way over the second-baseman’s head. The opposing shortstop ran to Shaya to help him and turned him in the direction of third base.

All were screaming, 'Run to third Shaya, Run to third.'

Shaya ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

As Shaya rounded third, the boys from both teams followed him down the baseline, and all the spectators were on their feet screaming, 'Shaya, run home! Run home!'

Shaya ran to home, stepped on the plate and won the game for his team. Both teams hoisted Shaya up on their shoulders, and cheered him as the hero the game who hit the grand slam.

'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and healing.

We Live in a Vibrational Cloud

As you think, you become.

Our bodies are a complex of thoughts, actions, beliefs, chemicals, and electrical energy. We live in a big world with much that happens around us and through us.

It is our response, thoughts, and actions to what is happening in our environment that determines who we are and what happens to us.

Let me explain.

When something happens in our environment, we experience it through any of our five senses. The mind then affects our body through our cells, releasing a multitude of proteins in our bodies. We determine what it means and if we accept it or not in our minds.

Our cells and bodies create energy from each thought, action, or experience that happens to us. This energy sends a vibration into the environment that attracts more of the actions or experiences of the same vibration and the cycle starts all over.

Only it goes with intensity as our emotions enter.

We call this a “vibration cloud.”

 Vibration Cloud

This is why “like attracts like” and “as you think you become.”

Your vibration cloud is all around you. It is always working and where your thoughts and attitude affects your health. In fact, it affects everything about you every single day.

The great news is that you can affect it in the way that you want your world to look like and what attitude you will have. For example, if you wake up and decide it is going to be a bad day, your experiences line up to prove you right. But if you say “It’s going to be a great day!”you look for things that will make it great.

Every smell you have, everything you feel, see, hear, or taste, influences your attitude, arranging your response to arrange for you to enjoy your experience.

No matter what you do during the day, at any time you are creating energy.

  • Ideas are energy.
  • Mp3 devices are energy. You experience energy in everything you hear.
  • Inventions are energy before they become structure.
  • Food is energy.
  • Magazines are energy
  • The books on your bookshelf are energy.
  • Television shows are energy.
  • Drinks are energy.
  • Your computer content is energy.
  • What you hang on your walls is energy.
  • Thoughts are energy.
  • Feelings are energy.

Everything is energy. You cannot get away from it. It affects everything you do your life.

So to make your day the way you want it, review your thoughts and create your environment. Your internal environment reinforces your external environment.

It begins within you! The world without will not change for you unless the world within changes.

What will you become today?

Habits Form Early. Living Them Is A Choice.

What do you do that reminds you of your parents? Do you ever remember saying, “I will never do this to my kids” or “I will never be like my mom or my dad!”

If you said those things, I want you to do something right now. 

Look around you. How you have decorated? Remind you of someone?

How about disciplining your kids? Remind you of someone?

Now go through the list and compare:

  • Work/Career
  • Where you live
  • Recreation
  • What you eat.
  • What time you eat
  • Hobbies
  • Social graces (or lack of)
  • Education
  • Cultural discrimination
  • Spirituality
  • Attitude about money
  • Spending habits
  • Appearance
  • Books/music/literature
  • Relationships

The habits of your parents or the people that raised you, make an impact on you whether you like it or not. It is neither good or bad unless you want it to be.

Some traditions are good. They provide an anchor and stability. However, traditions just for the sake of "we have always done it, but it has no meaning" are not good.

What you have to do is go through each of the habits and see where they are getting you. Is the habit getting you closer to your goals or is it creating a barrier between where you are and where you want to be?

You either do something and like it or you make up your mind to make a conscious decision to change what you are doing.

It is up to you. It is not your parent's fault, it is not your grandparent's fault. It is not the politician’s, or your spouse’s fault. Nor is your teacher to blame.

You are who you are because you chose to respond in certain ways.

Life happens because of our responses to events. We create our world.

Do you like yours? Take responsibility for who you are, where you are, and why you live the way you live.

Live what you like and change what you don’t. It is up to you.

Choose Your Attitude in 4 Steps

Everyone chooses their attitude. Attitude is a choice. For everything in life, there is a certain way of:

  • Thinking
  • Believing
  • Acting

Happiness is a choice. It is a conscious choice that you make every day. You either choose to be happy or you choose not to be happy.

You have to think first, “I am going to be happy today,” then believe that it is possible to be happy in all things today. After you have thought you will be happy and believe you can be happy, choose to act like you are happy.

Think about Eeyore on Winnie the Pooh. Eeyore could look you right in the eye and say, “I am happy” but his voice and his actions tell you differently, so what he does reinforces his unhappiness. Eeyore is not a happy donkey. Life is unfair to him. He is miserable. Everyone around him miserable.

Eeyore is what I like to call a “Crap Magnet,” where everything close to him has a crappy attitude.

Want to be happy? Try this exercise.

1. Identify a negative belief that you have. It can be anything from your work, family, any situation that you think will never get better.

2. Define how it limits you. What does it stop you from doing?

3. Decide how you want to feel and act. Think about the end. How do you wish that you would feel and act if the belief was not there?

4. Create a turnaround statement you can read every day that reflects how you want the end result to be. Start the statement with “I am…” e.g. “I am choosing to be happy today and I am building civility in all relationships.”

It is time to quit waiting for:

  • Perfection
  • Inspiration
  • Permission
  • Reassurance
  • Someone to change
  • The right person to come along
  • The kids to leave home
  • The pain to go away
  • A new administration to take over
  • An absence of risk
  • Someone to discover you
  • A clear set of instructions
  • More self-confidence

What are you waiting for? 

Choose to have a positive attitude and choose to be happy. Do whatever it takes.

As Larry the Cable Guy would say, “Get “er” Done!!”

Let us know what happens and if you need some help!

The Story of the 18th Camel

The story is told of a Middle Eastern traveler making his way on a long journey across the desert. As he plodded on his camel steadily through the dry heat, he came upon an oasis. Approaching the desert spring, the traveler was surprised to find three brothers weeping profusely.

Through conversation with the mourning brothers, the traveler discovered their father had recently passed away. The source of the tears was the brother’s inability to satisfy their fathers’ last wish.

The father had given strict instructions that the inheritance of his estate be divided in such a way that the oldest received one half, the second received one third, and the youngest received one ninth of the father’s estate.

The brothers had successfully divided the rest of their father’s property, but were unable to do so with the camels. The father had left them 17 camels, and, try as they may, the brothers could not distribute the camels according to father’s wishes.

The traveler considered the dilemma and then offered the brothers a solution. He insisted they receive his camel as a gift. After much conversation and many attempts at refusal, the brothers relented to the travelers’ demands and received the kindness of his gift.

With 18 camels, the brothers were able to properly divide the inheritance and satisfy their father’s wishes. The older brother received one half of the herd and took his 9 camels. The second brother received one third of the herd and took his 6 camels. The youngest brother received one ninth of the herd and took his 2 camels.

Surprisingly, 9 camels plus 6 camels plus 2 camels equals 17 camels. With the inheritance properly distributed, the traveler was able to take his camel and continue on his journey.

What solution do you have to offer to the desperate situations around you? Many times the answer is not either/or but the answer lies in the third option, an option that you never would have found if you did not try and understand another’s point of view. The solution might be right in front of you but you are to close to see it.

Are you riding on the 18th camel?